Will My Baby Be Okay?

Dear Abortion Advice:
I have been thinking about abortion because I found out I have diabetes.  I am worried my baby won’t be okay.  Do you know anything about this?

From:  Worried

Dear Worried:

I looked online and it seems the greatest concern for your baby would be if you didn’t find out about the Gestational diabetes or if you don’t take care of yourself once you find out.  Here is what I found online:

  • Gestational diabetes is a type of diabetes that develops only during pregnancy. Diabetes means your blood glucose, also called blood sugar, is too high.
  • Gestational diabetes happens when your body can’t make enough insulin during pregnancy. Insulin is a hormone made in your pancreas, an organ located behind your stomach. Insulin helps your body use glucose for energy and helps control your blood glucose levels.
  • You will probably be tested for gestational diabetes between weeks 24 and 28 of your pregnancy. If you have a higher chance of getting gestational diabetes, your doctor may test you for diabetes during your first visit after you become pregnant.
  • If you have high blood glucose levels because your gestational diabetes is not under control, your baby will also have high blood glucose.
  • Untreated or uncontrolled gestational diabetes can cause problems for your baby.
  • Treating gestational diabetes means taking steps to keep your blood glucose levels in a target range.
  • Even if your blood glucose levels return to normal after your pregnancy, your chances of getting diabetes—usually type 2 diabetes—later in life are high. Therefore, you should be tested at least every 3 years for diabetes or prediabetes.
  • You can give your baby a healthy start by breastfeeding.
  • You can help your child be healthy by showing your child how to make healthy lifestyle choices, including being physically active, limiting screen time in front of the TV or video games, eating a healthy diet, and staying at a healthy weight.

 

Question about Abortion

Dear Abortion Advice:

If I get an abortion, can my boyfriend stay with me the whole time?

Feeling Scared

scared

Dear Feeling Scared:

Here is the answer I found online to your question.  “We need to protect the privacy of others in our clinics so partners won’t usually be with you for surgery or recovery.”

Question about how long it takes to have an abortion

Dear Abortion Advice:
Do you know how long it takes to have an abortion?
Concerned

Dear Concerned:
Here is the answer I retrieved on 12.12.14 from http://www.fwhc.org/abortion/faq.htm

The actual abortion procedure takes only 5-10 minutes for first trimester procedures, and 15-20 minutes for second trimester procedures, depending on gestation.

However, the abortion appointment will last 3-5 hours and will include paperwork, blood draw, laboratory tests on blood and urine, ultrasound examination, counseling about options, birth control, what to expect during and after the abortion, understanding the medications as well as the abortion procedure and giving informed consent, answering all your questions, taking medications or receiving injections, a pelvic examination followed by the medical procedure, and recovery. For second trimester D&E’s, appointments will be made on 2 or 3 consecutive days. After the procedure there is in-clinic recovery time of 20-30 minutes for first trimester procedures and about an hour for second trimester procedures. Women who opt for sedation will have a longer in-clinic recovery period the day of their procedure.

Dear Abortion Advice from What Was I Thinking?

Dear Abortion Advice:
When I went home for Thanksgiving break, I hooked up with my old high school boyfriend.  What was I thinking.  I am not sure if I am pregnant and I don’t know what to do.

From What Was I Thinking

Dear Thinking:

The best place to start is to search for pregnancy help in your community.  You won’t have to go far to find a crisis pregnancy center that offers free pregnancy tests.  This would be the best advice I can give you.  They are set up just to help young women in your situation.

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Dear Abortion Advice: I am so worried that I will spend my life regretting having an abortion. How do people cope after abortion? From Anxious

Dear Anxious:

Here is a self test I found online that might help you gain some insight into future regrets about abortion:

Will I Regret Having an Abortion?

Some situations are warning signs that women will have a hard time after an abortion.
If you are worried about how you will feel afterwards, answer the following questions.
Score using a 1, 2, or 3:
1 = Not true for me 2 = Somewhat true for me 3 = Really true for me
1. _____ I believe abortion is the same as murdering a born person.
2. _____ I am not sure if I am making the right decision.
3. _____ I don’t want an abortion, but I have to have one.
4. _____ I know I will regret having an abortion.
5. _____ My parents are rejecting, critical, or abusive.
6. _____ The man involved is abusive, rejecting, and controlling.
7. _____ I think God will punish me for having an abortion.
8. _____ I will not be able to forgive myself for having an abortion.
9. _____ No one is giving me emotional support right now.
10. _____ Someone else is forcing me to have an abortion.
11._____ I am never going to think about it again after it’s over.
12. _____ I suffer from depression or diagnosed personality disorder.
13. _____ I am a “perfectionist” and I can’t forgive myself for getting in this situation.
Add up your score. Enter your total here _______

Any score  of 13 and above indicates you will have trouble coping after an abortion.

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Dear Abortion Advice from Angry & Upset

Dear Abortion Advice:
My friend just aborted her third child. She felt like she should focus on the 2 children she has and her job. Now she is so full of rage and anger and is crying the next minute saying things like, “I wonder what he would have been like.” I don’t know what to do for her. I told her not to get the abortion and I find myself also full of anger. I miss my old friend. How do I help her get past this.

From Angry and Upset

Dear Angry and Upset:
I heard a very wise quote from an OBGYN doctor who said pregnancy changes us. She added that no matter what happens with the pregnancy, we can never go back in time. I think women sometimes chose abortion thinking they can go back to the way things were before they got pregnant. Maybe sharing this with your friend and letting her know that she is not alone, that pregnancy changes us….all of us. You should read some books on healing after an abortion and recommend the ones to your friend you find most helpful. My favorite book was called Forbidden Grief.

Dear Abortion Advice from I’m Done

Dear Abortion Advice:

I’ve been searching the internet but I can’t find any help for my situation.  I have 2 children and I’m done.  I find myself pregnant now with an abortion appointment scheduled.  I never thought I would getting an abortion.  My husband is supportive of my getting an abortion.  I’m worried about how other parents deal with the abortion after.  I know its a baby I’m pregnant with…but I’m done.

Dear I’m done:

Well, you are not alone.  The second largest group getting abortions is women who already have children.  Here is a link and the second comment, “Not a day goes by” is from a woman with kids.  I also saw a testimony from a husband on that page.

http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/testimonies/index.aspx

Dear Abortion Advice from Scared

Dear Abortion Advice:
Do you know how long it takes to have an abortion?
Scared

Dear Scared:
Here is the answer I retrieved on 6.17.15 from http://www.fwhc.org/abortion/faq.htm

The actual abortion procedure takes only 5-10 minutes for first trimester procedures, and 15-20 minutes for second trimester procedures, depending on gestation.

However, the abortion appointment will last 3-5 hours and will include paperwork, blood draw, laboratory tests on blood and urine, ultrasound examination, counseling about options, birth control, what to expect during and after the abortion, understanding the medications as well as the abortion procedure and giving informed consent, answering all your questions, taking medications or receiving injections, a pelvic examination followed by the medical procedure, and recovery. For second trimester D&E’s, appointments will be made on 2 or 3 consecutive days. After the procedure there is in-clinic recovery time of 20-30 minutes for first trimester procedures and about an hour for second trimester procedures. Women who opt for sedation will have a longer in-clinic recovery period the day of their procedure.

Dear Curious about Abortion

Dear Abortion Advice:

I am worried that I will later on regret getting an abortion.  What do you think?

From Curious.

Dear Curious:

Research shows most women start seeking abortion healing about 7 – 10 years after having the abortion (or abortions). The initial emotion is relief, but that is short lived.  And it is not that the 7-10 years are pain free, some women report having tried to hide the pain by drug and alcohol abuse, promiscuity, a lack of being able to attach to current children, etc. I think one of the best resources for help after an abortion can be found here:  http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/search/  This website gives you an idea about what some people have had to deal with after an abortion.

Shocked

Dear Abortion Advice:
Have you ever heard of anyone going to Planned Parenthood for adoption advice?
Shocked

Dear Shocked:
I know one person who did. The receptionist said she would probably have a difficult time finding a family to adopt her baby. They said this because she was using drugs. That evening she ran into the father of the baby at a party and he said he thought they could handle being parents together. She told him it was too lat that she had an abortion already. Very sad situation.