Dear Abortion Advice from Annoyed

Dear Abortion Advice:

I am so annoyed with the attitude of my parents.  They are going to have a real problem finding out that I am pregnant since I am not married.  So many of my friends have gotten abortions to avoid this judgement.  My parents are also against abortion.  I am thinking this might be my only chance to have a baby.  Ugh.

 

Dear Annoyed:

I get your annoyance with your parents attitude.  You can’t make them happy by either choice.  But if you really think this might be your only chance to have a baby I would definitely hang in there.  If they give your a hard time, ask would they prefer you got an abortion for their grandchild.  That might help!

Dear Abortion Advice from Considering Adoption

Dear Abortion Advice:

I was thinking about getting an abortion but I am afraid I am too far along.  Is it possible to put my baby up for adoption but still know he or she is okay?

Considering Adoption

Dear Considering:

Yes, with open adoptions you can have a wide range of options for staying in touch.  Some families have the birth mother be a part of the child’s life in the same way a favorite aunt would be connected.

Dear Abortion Advice from Curious

Dear Abortion Advice:
I found out I was having a baby boy and did a gender reveal party on Father’s Day.  Now I’m worried that the ultrasound might be wrong.  How accurate are they and how far along should you be to tell the sex?

Curious

Dear Curios:

Several factors, such as the stage of pregnancy and position of the fetus, will influence the accuracy of the gender prediction.  The ultrasound is usually done between 18-20 weeks for gender prediction.

Dear Abortion Advice from Stressing in Minnesota

Dear Abortion Advice:
I heard I will have to move out of my subsidized apartment if I have another baby.  Could this be true?  I am thinking of having an abortion because I am stressed out about this.

From Stressing in Minnesota

Dear Stressing:
No, you don’t need to feel abortion is your only choice because of housing.  Options are available to help you.  First place I start is with the HousingLink.org website.  Stay Calm and Carry On!

Dear Abortion Advice from Pregnancy Symptoms

Dear Abortion Advice:

I haven’t missed my period but I feel like I am pregnant.  Can this be?  What are the symptoms of being Pregnant?

From Feeling Sick in Minnesota

Dear Feeling Sick:
Here are the classic pregnancy symptoms listed on the Mayo Clinics website:

The most common early signs and symptoms of pregnancy might include:

  • Missed period. If you’re in your childbearing years and a week or more has passed without the start of an expected menstrual cycle, you might be pregnant. However, this symptom can be misleading if you have an irregular menstrual cycle.
  • Tender, swollen breasts. Early in pregnancy hormonal changes might make your breasts sensitive and sore. The discomfort will likely decrease after a few weeks as your body adjusts to hormonal changes.
  • Nausea with or without vomiting. Morning sickness, which can strike at any time of the day or night, often begins one month after you become pregnant. However, some women feel nausea earlier and some never experience it. While the cause of nausea during pregnancy isn’t clear, pregnancy hormones likely play a role.
  • Increased urination. You might find yourself urinating more often than usual. The amount of blood in your body increases during pregnancy, causing your kidneys to process extra fluid that ends up in your bladder.
  • Fatigue. Fatigue also ranks high among early symptoms of pregnancy. During early pregnancy, levels of the hormone progesterone soar — which might make you feel sleepy.

 

Dear Abortion Advice from Freaking Out

Dear Abortion Advice:

I took an abortion pill but I’m freaking out because I still feel pregnant.  Can this happen?

Freaking Out

Dear Freaking Out:

I found this on the internet that relates to your question:

Continuing pregnancy is a pregnancy that continues to develop even after the use of Mifepristone and Misoprostol. In this case, the abortion has failed completely and the woman remains pregnant. Even if you bleed, you can still have a continuing pregnancy. Bleeding does not mean that you have had a successful abortion. If you still have symptoms of pregnancy such as sore breasts or nausea, you may be experiencing a continuing pregnancy. 

Dear Abortion Advice from Going Crazy

Dear Abortion Advice,

So, I was all set to get an abortion but didn’t have enough money.  Then once I got insurance approved, the ultrasound showed I was over 5 months pregnant. I was way off on the dates for my last period. No way was I going to get an abortion that far along.  The reason I am going crazy is my mom.  She won’t stop suggesting we go out of state and get an abortion.  She is driving me crazy.  Any advice on how to get her to leave me alone?

Going Crazy

Dear Going Crazy:

I feel your pain.  Try to spend as much time with friends, at work or wherever you can go to not be around your mother.  She just needs a wee bit of time to adjust to the new reality.

Shocked

Dear Abortion Advice:
Have you ever heard of anyone going to Planned Parenthood for adoption advice?
Shocked

Dear Shocked:
I know one person who did. The receptionist said she would probably have a difficult time finding a family to adopt her baby. They said this because she was using drugs. That evening she ran into the father of the baby at a party and he said he thought they could handle being parents together. She told him it was too lat that she had an abortion already. Very sad situation.

Who is the baby’s father?

Dear Abortion Advice:
I want to know exactly who is the baby’s father because I was with 2 different guys last month.  Will an ultrasound help me figure this out?  I might get an abortion if it is the wrong guy.

Struggling

Dear Struggling:

No, an ultrasound won’t help you figure this out.  Only a blood test once the baby is born will provide the information you are looking for.  You shouldn’t think abortion will help with this type of problem.  It will only create more problems.